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jennandjamesinm · 05-20-2005, 11:06 AM

In the vanilla world, I am what I would call "territorial". I don't consider it to be jealously at all. It is sort of what is mine is mine in the real world. James and I are approaching swinging with "our eyes wide open." I see that just talking about swinging has brought us closer, we are open and honest with each other, and I'm finding that we communicate very well - about the positive and negative things. It would be so hot to see him with another woman giving him pleasure (not even full swap), but I wonder about my reaction. Where I won't be jealous, I'm wondering about the emotions that go along with it. We've discussed it, almost to death, and for me the sensual aspect far outweighs anything else. Also, I know that I will be there because one of our "rules" (thanks for the great advice!!!) is that we are a same room couple. The first time you saw your partner with another person, how did you feel, what was your reaction to it? I'd like input from women and men......Thanks ya'll!!!

Jenn

05-20-2005, 11:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
jennandjamesinm Care to join us??? Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 1,454 Location: Northwest Mississippi Status: Couple SLS Name:jennandjamesinms	Emotions - the first time you saw your partner with someone else? In the vanilla world, I am what I would call "territorial". I don't consider it to be jealously at all. It is sort of what is mine is mine in the real world. James and I are approaching swinging with "our eyes wide open." I see that just talking about swinging has brought us closer, we are open and honest with each other, and I'm finding that we communicate very well - about the positive and negative things. It would be so hot to see him with another woman giving him pleasure (not even full swap), but I wonder about my reaction. Where I won't be jealous, I'm wondering about the emotions that go along with it. We've discussed it, almost to death, and for me the sensual aspect far outweighs anything else. Also, I know that I will be there because one of our "rules" (thanks for the great advice!!!) is that we are a same room couple. The first time you saw your partner with another person, how did you feel, what was your reaction to it? I'd like input from women and men......Thanks ya'll!!! Jenn __________________ "Swinging is the women's amusement park, and men are just along for the thrill ride." ~ James