[northindycpl]

Both Starlin and Dyna made good points to consider. I have to also agree with Starlin. Bi-curious women are just that...curious. Typically they don't have any experience and sometimes they find out that the fantasies they had about other women, are better left to fantasy.

Couples boundaries with bi-women will vary by couple. I will tell you that with us, the perfect MFF for us would be with a woman that I am into, and she into me. The majority of the play would revolve around us playing while Mr. Indy is present. I would expect him to be active with her as well as me, but he would more or less be the icing on the cake.

From experience, I can tell you that we had issues with bi-curious gals in a 3 some. They didn't have the experience to know where to make themselves fit into situations. Either they felt left out, or I did. It seemed like they were, again, curious to a point but relied heavily on the male to satisfy them when they hit moments of inexperience, which left me feeling left out.

Some boundaries I have in determining the right bi-femme?

Does she seem honest and genuine? Is she enthusiastic, imaginative and considerate? Is she comfortable with her own sexuality and does she understand our rules? Does she have rules of her own to follow? Do her fantasies jive with ours? Do I feel comfortable leading her in the bedroom and consipiring with her to create hot times for us all?

In logistical terms; I prefer to sorta soft play with her at first while Mr. Indy watches or is included in the soft play. Like flirting, dancing, touching, oral, etc. Once that is out of the way, so to speak, I think about the events and decide to move or not move to intercourse and more heated meetings.

Red flags for me during meetings or chatting with bi-femmes are;

Do they seem catty? Do they over flatter my husband? Do they actually pay attention to what I am talking about, enough to be an active participant in the conversation? Do they interrupt me when I am speaking? Do they touch Mr. Indy a lot, and not touch me? Do they touch him, or get close to him when I leave the room? Do they laugh at all his corney jokes, or tell him like it is? (there are more, those are just the ones I really pay attention to)

It seems if any of those things are present in the meeting, they are present in bed, and I would try to avoid them.

Out of curiosity, you mentioned that you didn't have as much fun with couples as you did with singles. Have you tried 3 somes with couples, where the wife swaps only? It is like taking turns, you join the other couple for a 3 some and the next time they join you. That might be something to try if you can't find the right EBF.