[Hawk14]

Thank you...it was the best getting some input from a single woman. I'm interested in hearing cautionary guidelines and how couples proceed with this type of thing...and words from another single is the icing on the cake! I tend to react quickly so am trying NOT to do this unnecessarily. Hubby has chatted with her as much as I have. She has a great sense of humor and seems like a very genuine and good person...all a plus. I like your advice to try to engage her myself. We're meeting for drinks and intend to be totally respectful of her wishes to move on to our place...or not right then. My hubby is a musician and she has seen him in concert, although it was quite awhile ago. She has told me several times how wonderful he seems in so many ways. Last night she said she dropped out of this site to have a friendship and playtime with just us. We have never talked about being exclusive with her, nor will we be...it will be one-sided at best...I know we can talk about this as time goes on. I didn't think too much about that at the time and didn't/don't want to read into that too much at this early stage...we will see how things go. She made the comment that she "needs connection...doesn't want emotion-less sex." That struck me oddly in a way although, at the time, I still didn't think much about it. We're in the lifestyle to play and not connect on a deep emotion level with anyone while playing, only possibly on a level of friendship if it happens. Hubby thinks this is a bit of jealousy on my part, although I see it as simple caution, especially when dealing with a single. Thanks so much...can't wait to hear what more you or anyone else has to say...