I can understand the rule from a starting out perspective. My hubby and I had this rule going into our first experience becuase i honestly didn' know how I would feel about seeing him kiss another woman.
To me a kiss can be MUCH more intimate than sex. Once we were actually involved I relaxed and it is no longer a big deal... but we initially set the rule as a way to make sure things didn't go to fast for anyones comfort. I mean for myself at least I know I can get carried away in the heat of the moment when kissing. A really good kiss can block out the rest of the universe
it was a distance thing.... till we were both sure that we were strong enough to try this sort of experience.
Steph