Yes, the proscription on kissing seems a bit overprotective to us. We met one couple for drinks and dinner one time who had that rule (they were soft swingers too which left them with little to do beyond oral...and manual...hmmmmmm). It seemed a little odd and so we probably tend to associate that with it. Needless to say we didn't make a lust connection on that one.
As far as the same room different room thing goes, with the couple we're with, it doesn't really matter. We usually do both over the course of an evening anyway, in no particular order. Gives us a lot of range.
Not to mention using every avaiable horizontal surface in the house! |