[Linda]

Thanks for the the great replies. My new husband knows of my interest and my past experience. He shares my interest and my concerns. We want to make sure that if we do go for this, that we don't have a similar experience to the one I had with my ex. Even when you discuss everything imaginable, you don't really know how you will react until it happens. I thought my ex and I had a solid agreement that we would not blame each other or use anything against one another. He didn't hold his end of the bargain, so I would like to know what people on the board do to keep their commitment to their rules and agreements. Granted, my ex was an asshole who believed that rules applied to everyone but himself, so there is no "regulating" someone like that and I should have known better. Thankfully, my new hubby is a gem!