[northindycpl]

Julie is right on the money.

Take the time to work out every possible scenerio you can imagine-before you get into it. Since you have a bit more experience involved in a situation, then you might want to discuss your previous situation with your new spouse. (NOt names or activities, but feelings) You can have a conversation like that without making the other spouse feel odd.

Maybe you two should start a bit slower, with just maybe soft swap and see how that goes, before going further.

Mr. Indy and I spent time a club watching specific situations before we started in the lifestyle so that we could take about things we saw and how we would react if it were happening to our spouse.

Mr. Indy and I also would make time to discuss everything right after we got finished playing. Everything was right there in our minds and all of our feelings were forefront.

Making sure that each partner has absolute veto power, without explaination as well as having signals between you to get you out of any uncomfortable situation immediately so you can talk is a good idea.

Trust, respect and communication. Take it slow and go into everything with the expectation that you are there to build and solidify your marriage not sinply have sex with others and you should be fine.

Welcome to the board, BTW. It is great to have you hear. I think you have a lot of insight and make a great addition!