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***JustAskJulie*** · 05-10-2005, 06:05 PM

The biggest thing here, I think, is to make sure that you have discussed EVERY possible situation in advance and based your rules on those situations. If there is something that one of you feels they may not be comfortable with then don't do it. Even with that sometimes you don't know how you will feel until you are actually in the situation. So what happens then? If something happens while you are swinging that either of you is not comfortable with then the one who is uncomfortable needs to stop things and discuss it THEN, don't wait till the morning after to discover that someone wasn't comfortable or was unhappy the night before.

Remember the old adage "don't go to bed angry". Well that applies here too, don't go to bed that night until you have discussed how you both feel about what happened. Hopefully, it will be a happy discussion and not an upset one. And again, if there's a problem stop and discuss as the problem occurs don't wait until it's too late to do anything about it.

05-10-2005, 06:05 PM	#5 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Guidelines for the "Morning After" The biggest thing here, I think, is to make sure that you have discussed EVERY possible situation in advance and based your rules on those situations. If there is something that one of you feels they may not be comfortable with then don't do it. Even with that sometimes you don't know how you will feel until you are actually in the situation. So what happens then? If something happens while you are swinging that either of you is not comfortable with then the one who is uncomfortable needs to stop things and discuss it THEN, don't wait till the morning after to discover that someone wasn't comfortable or was unhappy the night before. Remember the old adage "don't go to bed angry". Well that applies here too, don't go to bed that night until you have discussed how you both feel about what happened. Hopefully, it will be a happy discussion and not an upset one. And again, if there's a problem stop and discuss as the problem occurs don't wait until it's too late to do anything about it.