I gotta tell you, personality does count for a lot!!
I am not a barbie shaped type either (I like to call myself hour glass shaped with a couple of extra hours
).
When there is a dance, or we all go out on Friday nights, or a party my friend and myself get a lot of attention. She is not a small woman either. But we are always having a good time, laughing, flirting. I have gotten a lot of offers (and I am not saying that to toot my own horn, but to bring home a point), people are much more comfortable around others who are easy going, fun and personable. There were lots of thin beautiful people around, but they got far less attention. Probably becuase they were much more aloof.
You are as sexy as you feel and act. I have come to the acceptance that I am not ever going to be a perfect 10, I eat well, I exercise, but i cannot lose weight very easy. But so what, I'm happy, I feel sexy and I like to have fun and that seems to radiate and draw people.