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Originally Posted by J&C39466 Thanks again guys&dolls for all your comments. I would like to address a statement that Intuition897 made in her response to me. She said that swinging is not cheating or adultery. How can you justify that answer when we've been taught all our lives that sex with anyone other than your spouse is wrong. The Bible even teaches that this is wrong. ( I know this is going to open a can of worms) |
I can justify it because I don't feel the need to simply accept that something is right just because the rest of the world believes it. A lot of people thought the world was flat until they were proved wrong. As far as what the Bible says... YEAH, that is a whole 'nother can of worms.
But since you asked, if you wanted to, you can find prophetic revelations in a phonebook. It's all a matter of interpretation and what you want to focus on. Personally, I believe the mallarky about sex with more than one partner being wrong was propaganda that was started by church leaders as a way to control people. If you forget everything you were taught by other people, and just read the thing with fresh eyes and an open mind and heart, you would see that God has no time for BS. People tend to sweat the small stuff, and He keeps trying to get them to see the bigger picture. Old testament or new, it's the same theme. Sex was not a big deal to Him. It's not bad. It's another function of the human body, and is pleasurable. As is being able to enjoy your food while eating, or being able to smell when it's going to rain. He made these things pleasant in order that we would enjoy them. When these gifts are abused, when we take them for granted or we disrespect them, that's when it becomes a problem. We can use sex recreatively without disrespecting it. I do not see why this is wrong. I mean, for crying out loud, God gave King Solomon over 700 wives as a gift. Just because he had the legalities taken care of, does that make it ok? Do you really think he had a deep spiritual connection with each and every one of them? Another example is when God told David (loosely paraphrased) "If you wanted more women, all you had to do was ask and I would've given you as many as you need. But instead, you took it upon yourself to kill this woman's husband because you wanted her." Again, sex was not the problem (he would've been given more women if he'd asked for them); it was David's integrity...or lack thereof. If you look, you'll see over and over again that any instance of adultery is accompanied by victimization of one form or another. Someone is being dishonoured or disrespcected. That is why adultery is wrong. In order for something to be wrong, it must negatively impact
someone somehow. We are very careful to never allow what we do to negatively impact our relationship and we avoid knowingly involving ourselves with another couple whose relationship, we feel, would be negatively impacted by swinging. To us, that's just good citizenship. No, we're not necessarily our brothers' keepers, but we look out for others in this respect. If the other couple still chooses to go ahead with it, have at it! ...but it won't be with us.