 Re: Need a little advice
Your situation sounds exactly like ours, with the exception that ours has been realized. My wife had fantasies about a coworker and we've talked about her fantasies during sex, and outside of any sexual environments (watching tv, having dinner, driving to the grocery store, etc). I was always supportive of her and told her I've always had fantasies of her being with another man. She thought it odd at first that I would have those fantasies, but it's because I love her and trust her implicitly that I told her that she should explore other venues, so to speak. Like you I have no interest in another couple or a partner for me, just her being with another man and me watching, or both of them alone together somewhere - as long as she told me about it and did not leave out any details.
To make a long story short, she and her coworker eventually got together, albeit in parks and parking lots and made out like teenagers (discretion being the key word - both have high profile jobs). She'd tell me all the juicy details when she'd get home that night and we'd re-enact her adventures and finish off with a bang. He has since been transferred to another office and she hasn't had a playmate in a while, so we're back to fantasizing all over again. The sex is still great, but since we've discovered this site, it's even greater - and exploring other possibilities on how to get potential playmates for her. That gets our juices flowing.
My point is you need to be supportive of your wife and be sure this is what you both want to do. Granted, when I knew she was with him, I felt intense feelings of jealousy along with a heightened sense of sexual turn-on, so I know exactly what you're going through and what you may feel in the future. We've been happily married for 14 years and together 18. Hoping to be old and gray together by the time this whole thing is through. Enjoy the ride, you're lucky to have each other. |