[Just_us49]

This is the Mrs. here

I agree with Van. I think you should all meet for a drink. D (male half) always wants to make sure he feels safe about the guy before we do anything with him. I agree, also, that this guy needs to be well aware of your participation and knowledge. D and I never play away from each other because, like you, the whole reason we do it is because he loves to watch me be pleasured. But I know that other couples do allow each other play alone. It is all a matter of preference and what your comfortable with.

Many of the things you said that your wife has said sounds JUST like what I said. I was confused about him wanting me to be with another man, also. At first it makes you feel like "doesn't he love me too much to let that happen". Once we talked about it more and I understood what was driving him I was fine with it. Also, I was uncomfortable with the thought of D watching me with another guy but once I got lost in the heat of passion I was fine. Maybe a good way to start that would be for you two to start playing and then let the other guy join in when she gets heated up and then you could step back and watch.

I would definately let her read this board because she will find that many men who are truly in love with their wives and are turned on by their own wife more than any other love to watch her with another man. I guess what I'm saying is she will find it is a normal feeling for a guy!

Good luck!
-M