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Rombi's Girl · 04-25-2005, 01:01 PM

I love kissing. My partner and I rarely kiss for very long (I mean over 10 seconds), and I too miss the days of making out and kissing for an hour at a time when your relationship is new. My big thing is being turned on by kissing. It's an important first step in the seduction process.

First, let me say that he and I respect all boundries of any couples that we play with. But personaly, I find it hard to relate to the philisophy "fuck my wife/husand just don't kiss her/him". If you are "ok" with someone else having intercourse with your partner, why the artifical kissing limit?

Fine, fine. Save the special things for your partner. I respect that, I do. But the only limits that we have are:
*safe sex always
*same room unless at a house party, then it's a "no locked door" policy
*three "yes"s and one "no" still means "no"

This means if I want to swallow or not, it's up to me. This means I don't have to look over and check to make sure that the other two are using a condom. If I want to neck with the other man, and he doesn't want to with her, that's fine with us, if it's fine with them. And the 3 "yes"s rule means that no one takes one for the team.

The first house party we went to together raised an interesting point. Namely, there was a couple there that was really into us. I was very much NOT interested in the male half of the couple, so I told my partner how I felt. And I said that if there were agreeable, just the wife and my partner could play together. The other couple was OK with it, and off my partner and the wife went to play in a room. Well after about an hour or so, I went looking for my partner and encountered a locked door. Mind you I didn't want to make it a threesome, I just wanted to know that they hadn't fallen asleep, and if finished, could let others use the bed as space was kind of limited. Needless to say that very evening the "no locked doors" became a hard and fast rule with us.

My favorite "new" rule of ours is an idea that I got from reading some posts here on the board. When going to an on-sight club, my partner and I have fun together there first ensuring that I actually do have an orgasm. Because it was just way too frustrating for me to go home, well, frustrated after an evening of play without any release.

Thanks for letting me share.

Peace,
RG

04-25-2005, 01:01 PM	#11 (permalink)
Rombi's Girl Active Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 36 Location: Ohio	Rules on kissing and more ... I love kissing. My partner and I rarely kiss for very long (I mean over 10 seconds), and I too miss the days of making out and kissing for an hour at a time when your relationship is new. My big thing is being turned on by kissing. It's an important first step in the seduction process. First, let me say that he and I respect all boundries of any couples that we play with. But personaly, I find it hard to relate to the philisophy "fuck my wife/husand just don't kiss her/him". If you are "ok" with someone else having intercourse with your partner, why the artifical kissing limit? Fine, fine. Save the special things for your partner. I respect that, I do. But the only limits that we have are: safe sex always same room unless at a house party, then it's a "no locked door" policy *three "yes"s and one "no" still means "no" This means if I want to swallow or not, it's up to me. This means I don't have to look over and check to make sure that the other two are using a condom. If I want to neck with the other man, and he doesn't want to with her, that's fine with us, if it's fine with them. And the 3 "yes"s rule means that no one takes one for the team. The first house party we went to together raised an interesting point. Namely, there was a couple there that was really into us. I was very much NOT interested in the male half of the couple, so I told my partner how I felt. And I said that if there were agreeable, just the wife and my partner could play together. The other couple was OK with it, and off my partner and the wife went to play in a room. Well after about an hour or so, I went looking for my partner and encountered a locked door. Mind you I didn't want to make it a threesome, I just wanted to know that they hadn't fallen asleep, and if finished, could let others use the bed as space was kind of limited. Needless to say that very evening the "no locked doors" became a hard and fast rule with us. My favorite "new" rule of ours is an idea that I got from reading some posts here on the board. When going to an on-sight club, my partner and I have fun together there first ensuring that I actually do have an orgasm. Because it was just way too frustrating for me to go home, well, frustrated after an evening of play without any release. Thanks for letting me share. Peace, RG