[Just_us49]

I think starting in the heat of the moment is a good place to start. During sex and your naughty talk ask him about HIS fantasies. Encourage him to be totally honest. Tell him you want to know what he wants done to you. That it turns you on to hear these things. It may take time (months) to get him to open up totally and believe that you won't get mad. That, of course, means you can't get mad at anything he says. He may start talking about another woman.

A little of everthing is how hubby and I got started. We talked dirty in bed like that, we watched porno and started being TOTALLY honest about what turned us on about it. We read erotic stories. It was a process over a year or more before we approached the idea of actually living out our fantasies. (It made for great hot sex during that year.) Then we did some cyber sex with people to see how our feelings were. We found this to be okay feelings wise (meaning jeously etc) but it wasn't the real deal. Since we have done the real deal we have sometimes found that the fantasy was better than reality (due to the people we were with not due to our fantasy). We have also found that even though we have fun with others, our love and passion for each other has grown and solidified even more. Our trust in each other to be totally honest has also grown. I had thought I was honest in the past but realized the little thoughts I wouldn't speak that now I will share openly.

Good luck! Remember taking it slow is good and the path to fulfilling your fantasies can be as much fun as the fantasies themselves.

-M