[northindycpl]

Starlinn... I have also taken it personally. But then I had sorta the female version of it happen to me. After talking to Mr. Indy I understood.

Sometimes everything can be the cause. For me, I was hot, uncomfortable, distracted by the lights and the noise, and just not feeling it. I went in that room ready to go and went out ready to go home!

I think that is what it is like for men, too. Distractions, level of physical comfort, too much to drink, too late at night, whatever.

GT is right. 99% of the time, I doubt it has anything to do with the woman and everything to do with the situation. Diverting and relieving the situation is the best way to go, and sometimes that works.