[northindycpl]

I am glad that I re-found this thread.

As a woman I don't expect every man to be hard all the time. Afterall, we aren't all 17 anymore. It really doesn't bother me, and I will give it the ol' college try and see if I can assist. To answer hilltop... My reaction is that it is almost acceptable, and not insurmountable.

But, What do you do if you are playing and your playmate isn't hard while the wife and your husband are going at it. And you can't seem to do anything to help your playmate?

This has happened to me and I am unsure of what to do. Specifically, it seems the wife could care less that her husband isn't hard, and looks to me like it is my issue he isn't.

The playmate gets really embarrassed and frustrated, and he really tries pleasing me, but yet I am somewhat bothered that his wife could care less. And the less hard he is, the more she wants my husband.

Is that a double standard? Mr. Indy and I aren't going to play with this couple again, but it the question is still in my mind.... what do you do?