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Originally Posted by De and Ci is it common that guys can't get it up when you offer to pity fuck them? |
Well, if you're asking
me, I'd say it happens about 100% of the time. There has to be some mutual attraction..some "heat" in the interaction with the woman...for me to perform. If I'm not feeling it during the flirting and foreplay, I don't hold out much hope that I'll feel it when we're actually trying to have intercourse.
Drugs, alcohol, stress, performance anxiety, and time-of-day are all things that can negatively affect a man's ability to have an erection. So can knowing that he's the recipient of a "mercy-fuck." You didn't say how old this guy was, but about the only time in a man's life when he can take erections for granted are the years between 12 and 25. As he ages, the range of women, and circumstances, in which he can sustain an erection narrows. Viagra can open that window somewhat, but ultimately, we cease the be the "fucking machines" we were in our 20's.
You say that "We have never expressed much sexual interest in them" and "we have always kept them at arms length." This guy probably knew, or should have known, that your wife wasn't "in to him." The fact that his dick wasn't "in to her," literally or figuratively, is the price he paid for working too hard at something that wasn't meant to be.