[JustAskJulie]

I know people like that - that just DON'T dress up - but usually it's the male half. My ex was like that, if I didn't dress him, it was jeans and a t-shirt (or sweats and a t-shirt).

I think there's a difference in just NOT CARING and not knowing. And for a lot of women they don't care for some reason and it may not be that they aren't interested in swinging. So often we see it when a couple gets comfortable with each other, they have each other and they stop trying. The woman stops putting on make up every day, and lounges around the house in sweat pants (and god forbid goes out in them).

I can't help but wonder if that isn't what you are running into. If it's not that these are couples who have lost that spark, they don't try for each other anymore and maybe that's why they are considering swinging. They need that newness again, they need someone else to tell them they look nice when they are made up, someone else to get made up for. If they don't try to look nice for each other, why would they make the effort for someone else? Maybe they wouldn't, and maybe that's the problem.