[intuition897]

Hi michelle101, Welcome to the board.

I think a strip club would be a great way to introduce yourselves to the idea of taking sex outside of its usual comfy boundaries. Sure, try getting him a lap dance...or maybe one for yourself if you're into girl/girl fun. A lot of men are aroused by the idea of two chicks getting it on. But I agree with the above posts to some extent: exotic dancers are professionals and they (as far as I know) don't do anything more than put on a show. But still, having another woman shake her ass provocatively for your husband would give you an initial indication as to whether or not you would be comfortable with the idea of him having sex with another woman. I wouldn't make my final decision based on just that, mind you. Next step as RNDNV said is to try a swing club, because exotic dancers aren't swingers (well maybe some are, but it would be unrelated to their work). I think you'll be pleasantly surprised at a club. You won't be pounced on like fresh meat as soon as you walk through the door. You'll just find a lot of other nice people like yourselves having fun and flirting with one another. Many people just enjoy the sexually charged atmosphere and make out or play with their own partner. Others like to get out on the dance floor and do some dirty dancing. Some like to watch, some like to be watched... It's a little bit of everything

And BTW, swinging is whatever you want it to be. You asked about full swap having to be this or that; it's not a goal to reach or anything, it's just what they call it when everyone plays full-contact with each other. Likewise, soft-swap is a sliding scale from playing only with your own partner in the same room as another couple all the way to same-bed/girl-girl/heavy petting/oral sex activities but no intercourse with other partners.

Hope you two have fun with all this. Wishing you luck.