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Old 03-25-2005, 08:01 AM   #7 (permalink)
Just_us49
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Default Re: Test Run

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Originally Posted by RNDNV
Not a bad idea Michelle, but you should know that the "commercial aspect" of strips clubs and the straight forward reality of swingers clubs are, in my opinion, like apples and oranges; two different things. Your idea is a soft and easy sensation start, however, you should understand that the Lifestyle is a different thing altogether.
I tend to agree here, It's one thing to see your husband with someone that you are pretty sure isn't going to do anymore than lap dance with him. It's a whole different story when it happens in a club and you know more could possibly happen if all are agreeable.

RNDN gave you some really good advice. We pretty much made up our minds early on actual full swap would be a rare thing for us and always in the same room. One thing we have come to appreciate about starting with most couples we play with is by starting with a same room play session you get a chance to observe each others bedroom manners/techniques. So far, that has really helped to make the next time (if we full swap) be a whole lot better. I always do better on the second seesion. (less anxiety) We go to a couple of clubs and the regulars have kinda figured out how we are...we flirt and play publicly, but a private show ain't happening very often.

So just remember whatever you do, you can always slow it down and take your time until comfortable.

Have fun...

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