Not a bad idea Michelle, but you should know that the "commercial aspect" of strips clubs and the straight forward reality of swingers clubs are, in my opinion, like apples and oranges; two different things. Your idea is a soft and easy sensation start, however, you should understand that the Lifestyle is a different thing altogether.
As "veteran swingers" the best advise we can give you is take it slow, and take your "baby steps." Here is a suggestion of steps that you can modify to your speed and feelings, but remember, both of you need to be true to yourselves and go at the pace of the person who is the most cautious.
STEP ONE: After your strip club experience, share what you felt with your husband, and ask him about his feelings and really try to listen to what he says from a non-judgmental viewpoint, and ask him to do the same for you. Share, talk, and really be with each other, and if you guys find yourselves getting all hot and worked up talking about it, then by all means have some good lovin with each other.
STEP TWO: Come back to this website, together, and feel free to both share your experience and read the other threads, together. Check out swinging related websites, especially those that offer advice and philosophical viewpoints, and discuss those viewpoints with each other and ask yourselves if they ring true to you.
Our suggestions for good sites are:
www.nasca.com (a swingers club organization with good info and links to club locations, events and conventions);
www.clubadventure.org (the homesite for "Swing Mom," a true goddess in introducing newbies to the Lifestyle); and lastly,
www.sexuality.org/mgswing.html (the website for the "Modern Guide to Swinging," a very, very informative site that discusses all aspects of swinging).
STEP THREE: Go to a swing club. Get to know the owners, tell them you are "newbies" and have them introduce you to people. Experienced swingers are very helpful to newbies and always more than willing to give advice (just look at me just rambling on and on). Listen to it all, take it in, and talk about it with each other later. If you both want to, go on the dance floor with other couples and swap dance partners and work yourselves up from casual dancing, to slow dancing, to dirty dancing if the mood becomes you both and you feel good about it. This is a very easy form of "soft swinging" that can lead to greater aspects of soft swinging, to include "same rooming," which is having sex with each other while another couple is having sex with each other in very close proximity to you guys.
STEP FOUR: Whenever you guys are up for it, you may consider "full swapping," which is, as you can imagine, what you think it means. But before you do this, talk about it first, a lot, and also, DEFINE YOUR BOUNDARIES AND RULES BEFORE YOU PLAY!
Good luck, have fun, play safe, and stay close.
Love, RNDNV