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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie If I was in a group situation (aka orgy) with a lot of people I really didn't know, I WOULD judge those who I chose to participate with based on looks. Plain and simple, you don't have much else to go on at that point.
This got me in a lot of trouble the first time I tried to arrange a GB for myself. It was going to be a situation where we were going to meet the guys, go at it and that was it. I wasn't going to be taking the time to get to know the guys, and had no intention to (maybe after, but that was another story). I had a couple of guys get REALLY pissed off when I turned them down after I saw their pics. The funny thing was that in the end I ended up with only one guy that showed up of the ones I had picked based on looks, so no GB (that time). Because it was just him, he had a great time, got a lot more attention and we really got a chance to get to KNOW him and we did end up playing with him again later. WHen I finally did get to have my GB it was, for the most part, all guys that I had gotten to know through various means - and out of all 6 that were there, there was only 1 that I would have chosen had I just been basing it on the picture (and personality wise, he was the one I liked least - ego). |
Sorry Julie, I couldn't resist! (about the previous post)
I haven't talked that much with Fem D about a GB but I think she would like to know the guys who are going to be involved. To much shit to deal with otherwise. (Like the guys who got "pissed" because you turned them down.) On the other hand you said you had been with one of the guys you said didn't look all that good at first glance?
Although we haven't done any thing like a GB I would think that part of it would be the thought of strangers playing with you. Some people get off on the anonymity of it and some need to know their partners fairly well to even let them know of the GB idea.
One thing about this lifestyle...it can be fairly plastic at times...other times you want to know what's cummin'.
Male D