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***JustAskJulie*** · 03-22-2005, 03:09 PM

If you are going to do anything more than meet - shag - walk away , I think you have to be interested in more than just looks. I've seen some beautiful people turn ugly real fast just by opening their mouths.

If I was in a group situation (aka orgy) with a lot of people I really didn't know, I WOULD judge those who I chose to participate with based on looks. Plain and simple, you don't have much else to go on at that point.

This got me in a lot of trouble the first time I tried to arrange a GB for myself. It was going to be a situation where we were going to meet the guys, go at it and that was it. I wasn't going to be taking the time to get to know the guys, and had no intention to (maybe after, but that was another story). I had a couple of guys get REALLY pissed off when I turned them down after I saw their pics. The funny thing was that in the end I ended up with only one guy that showed up of the ones I had picked based on looks, so no GB (that time). Because it was just him, he had a great time, got a lot more attention and we really got a chance to get to KNOW him and we did end up playing with him again later. WHen I finally did get to have my GB it was, for the most part, all guys that I had gotten to know through various means - and out of all 6 that were there, there was only 1 that I would have chosen had I just been basing it on the picture (and personality wise, he was the one I liked least - ego).

So to answer your question, I don't think it comes with age, I think it just depends on what you are looking for in the end.

03-22-2005, 03:09 PM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Re: Is it just me?? If you are going to do anything more than meet - shag - walk away , I think you have to be interested in more than just looks. I've seen some beautiful people turn ugly real fast just by opening their mouths. If I was in a group situation (aka orgy) with a lot of people I really didn't know, I WOULD judge those who I chose to participate with based on looks. Plain and simple, you don't have much else to go on at that point. This got me in a lot of trouble the first time I tried to arrange a GB for myself. It was going to be a situation where we were going to meet the guys, go at it and that was it. I wasn't going to be taking the time to get to know the guys, and had no intention to (maybe after, but that was another story). I had a couple of guys get REALLY pissed off when I turned them down after I saw their pics. The funny thing was that in the end I ended up with only one guy that showed up of the ones I had picked based on looks, so no GB (that time). Because it was just him, he had a great time, got a lot more attention and we really got a chance to get to KNOW him and we did end up playing with him again later. WHen I finally did get to have my GB it was, for the most part, all guys that I had gotten to know through various means - and out of all 6 that were there, there was only 1 that I would have chosen had I just been basing it on the picture (and personality wise, he was the one I liked least - ego). So to answer your question, I don't think it comes with age, I think it just depends on what you are looking for in the end.