The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Doing things with a swap partner that you don't do with your spouse

***JustAskJulie*** · 03-21-2005, 05:02 PM

Why would you want to do something with a new partner that you Don't or Won't with your regular partner? Unless it's a situation where your regular partner doesn't want to but you do. But if you won't do something with your mate, why do it with a date?

I know of couples where say hubby loves butt sex but wifey won't do it, however he's allowed to do it with other women they swing with (if they are open to it, of course), and I know of couples where wifey WILL NOT let her husband come in her mouth and HOW DARE HE think he can do it to someone else. That last one bewilders me a bit, but hey, everyone's rules are different.

What it comes down to is that you need to set boundaries with YOUR partner so that you are both comfortable, then you need to make sure that those you intend to swing with are aware of those boundaries and that you are aware of theirs, and work within them.

03-21-2005, 05:02 PM	#19 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,248 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: How do you act with the swap partner Why would you want to do something with a new partner that you Don't or Won't with your regular partner? Unless it's a situation where your regular partner doesn't want to but you do. But if you won't do something with your mate, why do it with a date? I know of couples where say hubby loves butt sex but wifey won't do it, however he's allowed to do it with other women they swing with (if they are open to it, of course), and I know of couples where wifey WILL NOT let her husband come in her mouth and HOW DARE HE think he can do it to someone else. That last one bewilders me a bit, but hey, everyone's rules are different. What it comes down to is that you need to set boundaries with YOUR partner so that you are both comfortable, then you need to make sure that those you intend to swing with are aware of those boundaries and that you are aware of theirs, and work within them.