 Re: Something's Not Right
I know I coming in on this one late and I won't embarass myself by trying to provide any sage advice, particularly from the standpoint of firsthand experience.
Something that struck me about the "a--hole" reference in one of adventureUS' later posts is that she doesn't say she's sick and tired of feeling like "an" a--hole but, rather, "the" a--hole.
To my mind, "an" would imply that this unfortunate situation was the first time this couple had a serious problem with their swinging. On the other hand, "the" suggests to me that this isn't the first time, i.e. Mrs. adventureUS has had issues before and Mr. has, perhaps, made her feel like she's the one who's way off base. She also made the comment, "not this time", which also suggests to me that there's more to this than what lies on the surface - not that it isn't more than enough for most folks.
My gut feeling on this one is that Mr. adventureUS has pushed the limits, spoken or unspoken, more than once and this incident was just too far over-the-top for Mrs. to let slide by.
Sorry if someone else picked up on this and I missed it.
Van |