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I agree with Corkwan.

You need to forgive yourself and your husband. Taking a break is a good idea as well. It will give you a chance to rebuild your relationship and improved your communication skills. The most important thing should be the relationship you have to each other. This may mean taking a step back from swinging for the short term and learning to reconnect and trust one another again. You may want to look at why you were reluctant to speak up when you felt uncomfortable with the relationship your husband was developing with the other women. The only way swinging will work is if you are willing to be totally honest, that includes sharing feelings of insecurity and mistrust.

Another thing you may want to look into is why your husband was on the phone for hours at a time. Maybe he was getting something from the phone conversation that he wasn’t getting from home. But then again, it may have just been the initial rush you get when you flirt with someone new. This is one of the attractions of swinging. You need to determine what it was.

Finally, anger has a way of clouding your judgment and not letting you see things rationally. Get over the anger and start working on your relationship. The longer the anger builds the harder it is to overcome; it tends to take on a life of its own.