 Re: Something's Not Right
I have to agree with TNT here, I don't think RNDNV presented their argument in the best way, but they do have some valid points.
My first question to you was why did you have her in the middle? And why if you were uncomfortable with your husband carressing her did you not change that sleeping arrangement right then?
By putting her in the middle and you on the outside and having already engaged in play along with your earlier comment about them having sex after you fall asleep you basically did open the door and give permission for them to walk through it.
Next question, did you and your husband previously to this have an agreement that nothing would happen without both of you being involved (not present - remember you were present) but involved?
Yes, regardless they still carry some fault here. The long conversations - I assume you were present for them, was he talking to her as much as she was talking to him? Or was he primarily there on the phone listening? If it's the latter then yes you can accept his excuse. If it was the former and he was actually TALKING on the phone where he normally does not, then yes you had every right to be concerned and should have acted on that.
As others have pointed out, you saw the red flags and most likely at this point you are mad at yourself (if not moreso) than you are at him, for not doing anything to stop things before they got this far. |