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Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty Remember,
She was sleeping when the additional play took place.
It wasn't that she was watching and didn't know how to stop it. She didn't find out until the next day. |
That's very true...however, I still see it as a lack of communication. I think there is a lesson here for all. No one is a mind reader, everyone must speak up and let their feelings known.
The limits of the play session were not discussed before hand.
They invited this woman into their home and bed, had sex with her and obviously invited her to sleep in the bed with them. Now...was the fact that there would be no play between two of them without the other involved discussed? If it wasn't I can see where her husband would think it was okay, especially with the comment she made to them, which could easily be interpreted to mean it was okay...since they had obviously already had sex that night. If it was discussed and the answer was no play without all three, then yes her husband definitely stepped over the line.
She's obviously extremely hurt but, I feel that she's more upset with herself for letting things go to far. To me it seems that she was seeing 'red flags' , or at the least, things that she was not happy with, before the play session ever came about and she's now wondering why she didn't stop things long ago. She's hurt, confused and upset with herself as well as her husband. Blame has to stop and healing has to start.
The lesson I see here is no matter what, discuss what is within your comfort zone
before anything happens. Let all involved know what is okay and what is not okay and make sure that you are understood. Mistakes happen, all anyone can do is learn from them and move on.
Teresa