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corkwan · 03-16-2005, 06:46 AM

geez, you people must watch too many tv court-room dramas. ease up on the speculation and definitions.

anyway, you may feel like an asshole, but you're not.

we went through a very similar situation, and it took a good year of trying to get our marriage back on track. you know why it took so long? forgiveness. you have to let all the anger and resentment drop off. a relationship is based on faith in each other, and that is something you appear to have lost.

i know you may feel responsible for the situation, but you're not the only one responsible. everyone made mistakes, and i hope that most people see that. but hanging on to all the bad feelings is not going to heal anything up. you're most likely confused yourself, and from your comments, you've lost faith in yourself too.

i'm here to humour you.

don't worry.

everyone fucks up. what is more crucial is getting over it. stop picking old scabs and start focusing on positive things again. make up with your husband, tell him you want a break from swinging for a while, and that you'd like to start rebuilding things.

forgive everyone (including yourself), reflect and learn, and move on...

03-16-2005, 06:46 AM	#28 (permalink)
corkwan Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 98 Location: somewhere	Re: Something's Not Right geez, you people must watch too many tv court-room dramas. ease up on the speculation and definitions. anyway, you may feel like an asshole, but you're not. we went through a very similar situation, and it took a good year of trying to get our marriage back on track. you know why it took so long? forgiveness. you have to let all the anger and resentment drop off. a relationship is based on faith in each other, and that is something you appear to have lost. i know you may feel responsible for the situation, but you're not the only one responsible. everyone made mistakes, and i hope that most people see that. but hanging on to all the bad feelings is not going to heal anything up. you're most likely confused yourself, and from your comments, you've lost faith in yourself too. i'm here to humour you. don't worry. everyone fucks up. what is more crucial is getting over it. stop picking old scabs and start focusing on positive things again. make up with your husband, tell him you want a break from swinging for a while, and that you'd like to start rebuilding things. forgive everyone (including yourself), reflect and learn, and move on...