I definitely agree that there were some signs throwing up red flags that you chose not to bring to your husbands attention. As everyone on this board always preaches "Communication" is the key to this lifestyle. I cannot speak from a great deal of experience because we have really only been active in the swinging lifestyle, on and off, for about 2 1/2 years now. Let me tell you what I have learned about communication thus far....
Last weekend Mr and I had a MMF threesome with a bi single guy. It was the second time we would be together. Mr. had started questioning things, like statements the other guy made etc. I guess you could say he had a jealous twinge and was doubting us...I saw what was going on and I told him we needed to talk about this now because we were supposed to hook up with our M the next day. We gave each other a couple of hours to cool off by staying in seperate rooms doing seperate things. Time alone... We then sat and talked about it. Just feeling needy is all, that was what he told me.. so to the point..we get together with M and we are all in the heat of it, M and I were together and my husband was watching, I looked over and saw the look of someone who was very uncomfortable. I stopped the M right there by placing my hand on his chest. He stopped, got up, and Mr. asked M to leave, M started to. Mr. told M to stop, stay and that we all needed to be a part of this discussion, but first he wanted to talk to me alone. No problem with M and after we talked we talked with M and we started all over. The point is, if you are uncomfortable at any point, moment, time whatever, you stop and talk about it RIGHT THEN AND THERE!!!!! Don't blow it off or let it be blown off....plain and simple answer for me...lack of communication....it's right in front of you...
Sorry,
TXBLONDIE
