[RNDNV]

HEY, JUST WAIT A MINUTE ADVENTUREUS, where in my post did I EVER call you an asshole? No where! You put that label on yourself; that is not something I said, nor is it implied, so perhaps you may wish to consider looking at that about yourself? Secondly, who says I am not being supportive. Ms or Mr Naughty clearly suffer from the same inability to clearly communicate and understand what is being said and what is not being said. No where in my post did I call you an asshole, and if being honest and direct with you is not "being supportive" then I would say that what you are getting (and perhaps seeking as well) from the other "more supportive" posters is the kind of advise that will "support" you in continuing to be a victim of your circumstances instead of a master of your destiny.

Nothing should ever happen in this lifestyle that you don't want to happen, and if it does, then you have a fabulous opportunity to examine what led to that breakdown. I don't know who you are, but if there is one thing I have learned about swinging is that, done the right way for you, it can be a wonderful path for empowerment for women. This stuff is better than watching Oprah and Dr. Phil everyday for a year, and if you are really willing to look at yourself, one simple swing experience can teach you more about yourself than a year of watching Oprah and Phil.

Lastly, DON'T THROW IN THE TOWEL AND STOP CALLING YOURSELF AN ASSHOLE. That self-pity crap won't wash with me, and it shouldn't wash with anyone else here as well. Some may call this abrasive, I would simply say that I am being candid, honest and direct. But if you are more interested in someone blowing smoke up your ass, by all means don't listen to me.

Love ya.
Mr. RND