[TNT]

Although a little on the abrasive side, RNDNV brings up some valid points.

First...when in any swinging situation never kid about anything. It's way to easy for people to take what you might be kidding about seriously. If you didn't want your husband and this female having sex without your involvement, you should have definitely said something about it.

Secondly...you said that your husband recited one of your love making sessions when asked what they did. This needs some clarification...we all have sex with someone else like we have sex with our own partner...it's what's in the mind and heart that makes it "making love"...not in the actions of our bodies. Did he say there were feelings involved or was he just relating the same actions that you two perform?

You really need to work on your communication. If having your husband talking on the phone with this woman is something that you don't want going on...tell him and her that you don't want them talking. If your husband having sex with someone that is sleeping in the same bed with you both after all of you having sex together while your not involved bothers you, tell them playtime is over and it's time to go to sleep.

The way we see it is, you failed to speak up when something was bothering you and in letting the others involved know what you were and were not comfortable with. You have found a line that you don't want to cross but you have got to let him and others know before you get hurt.

Talk to your husband, rationally, he probably feels defensive because he did something that he felt you had given premission for him to do.


TNT