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Originally Posted by adventureUS Shit...we haven't even spoken much since the "episode" except fighting ..and he would prefer to spend the night at work tonight. I havent' been sleeping and sleeping in our bed just makes me sick ...this one episode is ruining my life.
...after 8 years of marriage and 5 years of swinging I thought we had all our "ducks in a row".....and thats not the case
...our marriage is suffering..our communication is suffering...I feel dead inside |
I was composing my first post while your post above mine came in.
Your new comments were helpful.
I'm concerned that if your husband doesn't feel he can talk with you about the episode in a calm and level-headed way, then he may seek comfort in the other woman. Don't push him away and throw him to her.
He's sleeping at the office overnight? This may be another "red flag" flying in your face.
Is there something else bothering you than this episode? Maybe what recently happened is bringing into focus something that's been present in your relationship for awhile that you haven't wanted to face.
I'm not trying to make you feel worse. I want to help. I have had moments in my life when I was so angry and hurt that I became blind. Once I calm down and acknowledge my hurt, and my fears, and look the situation straight on in a mature manner, I find my answers. Things always turned out better.
You can do something about your situation.
I'd start by paying your husband a surprise visit at his office tonight, with the intention of working this out. Talk about what's really bothering both of you and go from there.
Good luck.
LM