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growgirl · 03-15-2005, 05:18 PM

Dito to sensuality, however...

I think you are overthinking a tad at the moment. Everything is very fresh right now. That being said though, accept things for what they are right now and learn from them. You implicity okayed them to have sex. Bad Judgement? You betcha... Would you have felt this way had they had sex w/out you but on the couch, not duplicating a "private" session?

While I don't mean to negate your feelings, it may help you to accept that this is one of those fucked up moments thats going to occur anywhere, be it bed, work, family etc... You move on and it hopefully will make your relationship stronger.

I don't agree fully w/ sexhoundog's statement though... if you're looking for something, you're going to find it wether it's actually there or only in your head. Agreed, no more phone conversations, keep everything "public" but your relationship has changed and even when this becomes a distant memory, it'll always be just a little bit different than it was before. There's nothing you can do about it now though and it's up to you and DH to move on or to dwell on it and do nothing.

ggs .02

03-15-2005, 05:18 PM	#11 (permalink)
growgirl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 150 Location: Home of tax-free shopping	Re: Something's Not Right Dito to sensuality, however... I think you are overthinking a tad at the moment. Everything is very fresh right now. That being said though, accept things for what they are right now and learn from them. You implicity okayed them to have sex. Bad Judgement? You betcha... Would you have felt this way had they had sex w/out you but on the couch, not duplicating a "private" session? While I don't mean to negate your feelings, it may help you to accept that this is one of those fucked up moments thats going to occur anywhere, be it bed, work, family etc... You move on and it hopefully will make your relationship stronger. I don't agree fully w/ sexhoundog's statement though... if you're looking for something, you're going to find it wether it's actually there or only in your head. Agreed, no more phone conversations, keep everything "public" but your relationship has changed and even when this becomes a distant memory, it'll always be just a little bit different than it was before. There's nothing you can do about it now though and it's up to you and DH to move on or to dwell on it and do nothing. ggs .02
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