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All I can say is WOW...I think he and her crossed the line!!! I dont see this as an inocent act. They talk for hours on the phone??? that is a major no no! Dont get me wrong I dont care that hubby talks on the phone with women...but hours...NO WAY! He can chatt online for that long since if I am curious about what was said I can read it. Having sex while you sleep next to them...BAD! That is total lack of respect...truthfully you should have told her to leave or change places with you but you felt you could trust them. I know that things can happen that you dont exspect but to leave you totally out of it? I say you and him sit down and have a total heart to heart talk. Let him know you feel betrayed. Maybe he did mistake your remarks as an okay to do what he wants. Let him know what he is allowed and not allowed to do when you are with playmates so it doesnt happen again. I think you both need to take some time to work through the hurt feelings and then move on. but let him know how this makes you feel, and what you want for the future with these two. Remember ...you have the right to say no at any time or even stop seeing someone if you arent comfy. Your marrage comes first and formost! I really wish you the very best with this.