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It's been said that it's easier to make friends out of swingers than swingers out of friends.

Although we have introduced our best friends into the wonderful world of swinging, it is definitely not something that we would recommend to anyone. There are just to many potential problems that could arise; from losing the friendship to like the GT's stated, your friends telling others about what you do.

In our case, my friend brought it up to me...not knowing that we had been swinging for a few years...she called to say she was wanting to give her husband a FMF for his birthday and asked if I had ever done anything like that. Ted had always asked me what I would tell her if she ever asked and I had always said it would be the truth, so when she asked I told her that Ted and I had been swinging for a couple of years. It was the hardest thing I had ever done keeping this from her as her and I discussed everything that was happening in our lives, but the fear of losing her friendship was more than I wanted to deal with so I kept my mouth shut when it came to us swinging. As it turned out it opened up a whole new level to our friendship. The four of us discussed it intensely for over a year before we ever played as none of us wanted it to cause any problems with our friendship, which it hasn't. It was the strong relationship that we had in the beginning that made this possible.

If bringing friends into swinging is what you are wanting to do Mr. Alura gave excellent advice. It allows you a way to judge their responses without actually letting on that you are really interested in playing with them. Just make sure that it's something that you really want to do.


Teresa