The Swingers Board - View Single Post - How do we bring up swinging to our friends...or should we?

RNDNV · 03-14-2005, 12:28 AM

A good rule of thumb we have heard from very experienced swingers is this; never, ever attempt to "convert" your vertical friends into horizontal ones. We have had a minor experience with interest in the lifestyle from some vertical friends, and although they suspect we may swing, we have never confirmed it with them. In so many indirect words, we have told them that we would not be interested (even though we are very interested) in partying with them until they partied with another couple and found out if the lifestyle was truly for them. We don't want to be the couple to "intro" them into the lifestyle, b/c if they decided they didn't want to commit to this lifestyle, our friendship might not survive the experience. We don't want that, nor need it, as there are many, many fish-couples in the lifestyle sea.

03-14-2005, 12:28 AM	#7 (permalink)
RNDNV Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 114 Location: Reno, NV Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:RNDNV	Re: How do we mention it ??? A good rule of thumb we have heard from very experienced swingers is this; never, ever attempt to "convert" your vertical friends into horizontal ones. We have had a minor experience with interest in the lifestyle from some vertical friends, and although they suspect we may swing, we have never confirmed it with them. In so many indirect words, we have told them that we would not be interested (even though we are very interested) in partying with them until they partied with another couple and found out if the lifestyle was truly for them. We don't want to be the couple to "intro" them into the lifestyle, b/c if they decided they didn't want to commit to this lifestyle, our friendship might not survive the experience. We don't want that, nor need it, as there are many, many fish-couples in the lifestyle sea.