The Swingers Board - View Single Post - How do we bring up swinging to our friends...or should we?

Spoomonkey · 03-13-2005, 05:12 PM

For us - this is something that we wouldn't do; not unless there were some significant "signals". Even then, we'd be cautious.

First of all - you're right - they may have a very bad reaction and you two could wind up losing a friendship. And friendship is MUCH more important and hard to come by than casual sex.

But - it could be worse. They may have a bad reaction AND a wagging tongue... The next thing you know, quite a few of your friends are acting awkward around you guys.

Good friendships should outlive your foray into the lifestyle.

On the other hand - nothing would be better than having the firendship and play with the right couple(s). I think I'd rather take my chances finding friends in the lifestyle than finding the lifestyle in my friends, but I am sure it has worked for some.

Spoomonkey

PS - are there any signals that they may be somewhat open to the idea?

03-13-2005, 05:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,739 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: How do we mention it ??? For us - this is something that we wouldn't do; not unless there were some significant "signals". Even then, we'd be cautious. First of all - you're right - they may have a very bad reaction and you two could wind up losing a friendship. And friendship is MUCH more important and hard to come by than casual sex. But - it could be worse. They may have a bad reaction AND a wagging tongue... The next thing you know, quite a few of your friends are acting awkward around you guys. Good friendships should outlive your foray into the lifestyle. On the other hand - nothing would be better than having the firendship and play with the right couple(s). I think I'd rather take my chances finding friends in the lifestyle than finding the lifestyle in my friends, but I am sure it has worked for some. Spoomonkey PS - are there any signals that they may be somewhat open to the idea?
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