[good times]

I think this is a good question too. We are pretty avid club attendee's and have been going to our local clubs for about a year and a half. Most people at the club are very polite and will generally ask before touching but since we have been going we have ran into several people who took liberties that they didn't have permission to. In all but one case when we told them not to do that again that was the end of it. One time we did have to bring a particularly agressive person to the hosts attention and after the host talked to them they behaved better in the future. So if someone should happen to go further than you are comfortable with, speak right up and let them know you don't approve. Having said all that, I think it would be unusual for you to run into this behaviour on your first visit, as it is pretty rare to begin with, and most of the times we have run across this the person was usually doing inappropriate things to somebody because they saw someone else doing those things with that person and just assumed it was alright for them to do it too.