Hello all.
I'm pretty new here, but wanted to respond to this question.
I am a SWF who is brand-new to the swinging experience (ask me after Saturday night how it went
but not the concept.
I've always, until now, been a one-man woman. Almost every relationship was serious and eventually became restrictive in more than one way. I'm a very independent woman and also require a lot of solitude (just my nature) so I am happier living alone.
I have pondered many options in the past few months. Regular dating, polyamory, total celibacy, and now swinging. I have found out as much about poly and swinging as I can because I lack experience with either. I'm torn between the two, because like many women, I am not yet comfortable with the idea of sex just for sex's sake. Previously I always had to have a deep emotional bond with someone and work up to the sex.
Let's face it, single women can go to almost ANY bar and get laid if they simply want that. There's no need to hit a swinger's club for it. I'm looking for something different, though I'm not sure yet what it is. It's quite possible I may be more polyamorous by nature, but I admit swinging has its own appeal.
I am attending my first off-premise club this weekend, with my ex-boyfriend. We are still good friends, still have passionate physical encounters, just don't consider ourselves a formal "couple" anymore. Yes, it was a very intense relationship when it was "full on" and I don't want that again.
I think I want a break from the intensity and "stranglehold" of most conventional relationships.
I have some questions about other issues so I'll post that in the Newbies section.
Just my ten cents
