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traceywitney · 02-24-2005, 09:16 AM

I went for the option, which says that I have never been in a serious relationship because it applies to me.
I’ve never been in a relationship and don’t want to for now at least.
There are several reasons for that.
Until I was almost 24 I believed in traditional vanilla relationships only. As I said on “single ladies why do you swing thread”, I believed a man could have more than 1 woman, but he had to be discreet about it.
In February 2002 I met both my playmates and they helped me open my mind a bit.
When I realised that I was attracted to 1 of them and told him so, he told me that he could only go for that type of no strings attached involvement and that I didn’t have to go along with it if I didn’t want to. The main reason he gave for not wanting a relationship was because he is very busy and he simply doesn’t have time.
It was difficult for me to accept that because I was madly in love with him at the time, so I thought about it long and hard and asked a friend for advice and at the end decided to go along with it. The reasons for that were:
ь I was attracted to him.
ь I felt at ease with him.
ь We had quite a lot in common
ь I felt he was trustworthy for the first sexual experience
ь He was willing to give me the first time of my dreams. I.E. being gentle, not rushing it and providing music and candle lights.
Now I see what he means by not having time for a relationship because I’m in the same situation now. I can make time to meet up for sex when it suits us both, but I wouldn’t be able to do all this regular meeting up and talking on the phone and texting on a regular bases. Personally I would find it rather smothering.
In addition to this both my playmates know I’m involved with an other and what’s more they ask me about those adventures and listen with interest when I tell them.
There is not even a hint of jealousy or possessiveness there.
This mightn’t be the case in a serious relationship.
Also Like EBF I don’t want kids. Perhaps I will change my mind in the future, but perhaps I won’t.
Finally in the situation that I am now I don’t have to get my family involved in this. However if I was in a relationship and the relationship would get serious enough, I would have had to introduce my partner to my family. This is a prospect I don’t relish at all! I know my mom would start interfering and criticizing and who needs that?
I would also like to say that I have more respect for people like my 2 playmates who tell you straight out that they just want a sexual involvement with no strings attached than those who would promise the world to you when in fact they were only looking for sex.
I also love going out to restaurants for meals. In fact it’s one of my favourite socialising activities. I’m not really into noisy parties, but I feel you can also socialise like that with your swinging partners. You don’t necessarily have to be in a relationship to do that.
I do realise that one never knows what’s around the corner and perhaps I will meet someone in future and I might want a relationship with them. If it happens that is fine, but if it doesn’t, that’s fine too.
Maria.
PS. Sorry for the long post.

02-24-2005, 09:16 AM	#8 (permalink)
traceywitney Active Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 47 Location: Ireland	Re: Question for Single Females I went for the option, which says that I have never been in a serious relationship because it applies to me. I’ve never been in a relationship and don’t want to for now at least. There are several reasons for that. Until I was almost 24 I believed in traditional vanilla relationships only. As I said on “single ladies why do you swing thread”, I believed a man could have more than 1 woman, but he had to be discreet about it. In February 2002 I met both my playmates and they helped me open my mind a bit. When I realised that I was attracted to 1 of them and told him so, he told me that he could only go for that type of no strings attached involvement and that I didn’t have to go along with it if I didn’t want to. The main reason he gave for not wanting a relationship was because he is very busy and he simply doesn’t have time. It was difficult for me to accept that because I was madly in love with him at the time, so I thought about it long and hard and asked a friend for advice and at the end decided to go along with it. The reasons for that were: ь I was attracted to him. ь I felt at ease with him. ь We had quite a lot in common ь I felt he was trustworthy for the first sexual experience ь He was willing to give me the first time of my dreams. I.E. being gentle, not rushing it and providing music and candle lights. Now I see what he means by not having time for a relationship because I’m in the same situation now. I can make time to meet up for sex when it suits us both, but I wouldn’t be able to do all this regular meeting up and talking on the phone and texting on a regular bases. Personally I would find it rather smothering. In addition to this both my playmates know I’m involved with an other and what’s more they ask me about those adventures and listen with interest when I tell them. There is not even a hint of jealousy or possessiveness there. This mightn’t be the case in a serious relationship. Also Like EBF I don’t want kids. Perhaps I will change my mind in the future, but perhaps I won’t. Finally in the situation that I am now I don’t have to get my family involved in this. However if I was in a relationship and the relationship would get serious enough, I would have had to introduce my partner to my family. This is a prospect I don’t relish at all! I know my mom would start interfering and criticizing and who needs that? I would also like to say that I have more respect for people like my 2 playmates who tell you straight out that they just want a sexual involvement with no strings attached than those who would promise the world to you when in fact they were only looking for sex. I also love going out to restaurants for meals. In fact it’s one of my favourite socialising activities. I’m not really into noisy parties, but I feel you can also socialise like that with your swinging partners. You don’t necessarily have to be in a relationship to do that. I do realise that one never knows what’s around the corner and perhaps I will meet someone in future and I might want a relationship with them. If it happens that is fine, but if it doesn’t, that’s fine too. Maria. PS. Sorry for the long post.