 Re: Rules
Dear Julie and Confunktion,
First of all, thank you for taking the time to reply to my post, it is greatly appreciated.
We definitely found out that blinking as a way of communication does not work. We have worked on some other ways of communicating. Some decisions are:
> We will never be too far away from the other.
> Does not matter how overwhelmed we are, we will say it whenever there is something that one of us does not like or does not approve. We will be discrete but will make sure the other one gets the point.
Anyway for the time being we are taking a break from the lifestyle to let things calm down and time does its job. The positive part out of all this is we have stopped everything and reassessed where we are and where we are going. What we can do to make our lives better etc.....
Our analysis of the situation at the party is:
>She was farther away from me (distance) than we have never been during previous play.
>In the past she always asked if everything was ok at various points. She did not do that on that night
>Plus the rule thing.
>She was overwhelmed, being the new couple and she was the centre of attraction.
>Party might not be for us. We prefer to be in one room with another couple where we have plenty of time to play with our respective partners and each others partners. This give her more opportunity to see me with another woman and me to see her with another man or worman.
I would lie if I say that I am totally over it now. It's gradually fading would be the right way of saying it.
Regards,
Patrick |