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Originally Posted by taomaster Here's what we found out after some trial and error: 90% of single men are just interested in having fun with a woman (in this case your partner). They're not really interested in a true MFM which, in my book, is two men working together to please a woman.
So if an MFM is really what you want then pick and choose carefully. If you can find the right guy she'll be a very happy camper (if the grin on Mrs. T's face has been anything to go by).
On the other hand if all you want is to create space for the woman in the couple to have extra fun then you might want to consider the following options:
A) Sticking to couples where there is a swap so you're not left out
B) Finding a man you can 'trust' and give her some private space to get on with it
C) Get clear ahead of time that you're there to watch and don't expect to participate. Find out if it's OK for you to head out the kitchen or whatever if you get bored. Talk about things ahead of time.
Just my 2p. Good luck! |
A. Right now, a couple isn't what we're looking for. Not to say in the future it won't happen, but for now, we think concentrating on one person at a time is what's best for us.
B and C. Leaving the room is not what either of us is looking for. We're wanting this to be "our" experience, just not one-sided. I definitely want to watch her getting pleased by him, but I'm definitely not into just sitting and watching for the entire time. Some, yes, but not for the entire duration. Even though the other man is self-conscious about him and me touching, he knows that it's going to happen when we're close. I've reassured him if I touch him, it's purely by accident. He's ok with all of this.
For couples that has had a person who leaves to watch and then join back in, how do you do it? Do you say something? Do you just squeeze back into bed? Like I said, she wants me there, to be watching, rubbing, her pleasuring both of us, etc. Maybe I'm just putting too much thought into it, but I'm a planner. My personality makes me think of possible scenarios and how I/we would react in everything we do, not just this. Thanks for your advice though. It's appreciated!
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