[a_couple_in_pa]

Kudos to you for your communication. But remember to not over analyze and put undue pressure among yourselves.

Originally Posted by KYCpl

So, for the second session, I kept drilling into her head, “I must see everything”.

Don't drill. That's not going to make things comfortable. But you probably already know that.

Also, I’m afraid that if I just sit and watch them having sex, and the guy goes for hours, I’ll feel left out just watching and jacking.

Not likely. Most guys aren't superman. She should be in tune to you as well. If she sees you sitting there becomming lonely, she should call you in.

We’ve tried searching and reading here for scenarios, etc for MFM, but the only things we can find is doggie-style with one on each end. Not too comfy for a position for long periods.

Gosh no. Ever rent porn movies? There are all sorts of positions (assuming the men aren't homophobic and afraid of comming in close proximity to each other)

Plus, if we swap, he’ll be wearing a condom, so oral on him won’t taste very good.

The price to pay for being responsible. Maybe try flavored condoms. Or non lubed ones. Definately not ones with spermicide. Also, you'll want plenty of condoms on hand. If you're doing lots of switching or a marathon session, you'll need them.

I want to give them some “alone” time while I watch to just enjoy each other, but I want to be included too. If I’m watching, the only thing I can think of doing is to ask “Can I join in”, but to me, that feels like I’m asking permission to sleep with my wife.

Communicate this to her. She should know not to leave you there un involved. You shouldn't have to ask to join in. And if you're lonely, just go join. Everyone knows this is the ultimate goal anyway... right?

We’re honestly trying to make this to where nobody has regrets afterwards and enjoys themselves fully during. What can we do?

Just go with the flow. Let things happen naturally.

We’re not looking necessarily for just positions, but of how everyone can be involved and how to “get” involved if someone’s watching without just jumping onto the bed or pushing the other person off.

Pushing someone off is a little drastic. Just go jump on the bed and lend a helping hand. Kiss, caress, rub, fondle, etc. See where it takes things.