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Originally Posted by KYCpl So, needless to say, even though I could see everything the second time and enjoyed it, she was paranoid the entire time that I couldn’t see and really couldn’t get into it. That makes me feel bad. |
I totally sympathise. It's hard to relax and enjoy yourself if either of you are worrying.
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Originally Posted by KYCpl Also, I’m afraid that if I just sit and watch them having sex, and the guy goes for hours, I’ll feel left out just watching and jacking.. |
Yep. That can indeed happen. Been there, done that. (Well actually just watched. Until I got bored and went down to the bar in the club.)
Here's what we found out after some trial and error: 90% of single men are just interested in having fun with a woman (in this case your partner). They're not really interested in a true MFM which, in my book, is two men working
together to please a woman.
So if an MFM is really what you want then pick and choose carefully. If you can find the right guy she'll be a very happy camper (if the grin on Mrs. T's face has been anything to go by).
On the other hand if all you want is to create space for the woman in the couple to have extra fun then you might want to consider the following options:
A) Sticking to couples where there is a swap so you're not left out
B) Finding a man you can 'trust' and give her some private space to get on with it
C) Get clear ahead of time that you're there to watch and don't expect to participate. Find out if it's OK for you to head out the kitchen or whatever if you get bored. Talk about things ahead of time.
Just my 2p. Good luck!