Mr. Eyes here. Your comments and suggestions have helped me and Mrs. Eyes understand ourselves better. Some suggested that my concerns showed that I was not ready. Does it come out that strong? I feel that I am ready, as ready for something I've never done before as I can be. The desire is there, the mental attitude is there. We're ready. We're arranging a meeting with our first guy who seems nice and gentle enough for us newbies.
The biggest help were the women's comments who say that they don't get "mental," but open themselves to the experience. This helps me understand where Mrs. Eyes is in her heart, even if she can't speak about what's there.
On a reread our initial post was probably more confusing about us than helpful and I may have given the wrong impression. My worry had to do with Mrs. Eyes reactions to our discussions about what we planned to do. It wasn't just the lack of verbalization,it's that it didn't seem to turn her on when we would discuss it in general terms. (both in and out of bed) Or when we viewed profiles or email. I guess I just wanted to see her get excited at the prospect of an MFM. I saw no indication in any way (verbal, physical) of arousal. A positive reaction from her was my sign that she was into it also, at least so far. She IS ready, I see now, she has taken too many steps for me to think differently, considering the advice received here.
I was afraid that since she didn't give me access to her mind it was b/c she didn't want me to know what was in there. Like, embarassment or shame or fear. I, in my head, began to think it was an indication that she was doing this only to please me, which would be awful, b/c we do everything as a couple for our joint fun. If Baby isn't happy, I'm not happy......
Now I see that I have put too much concern into this. Your insights have been good for us. I'm just gonna release myself and have a "What, me worry?" attitude
and just jump in. facelick If I'm not ready, well, we will find out quick! If she isn't ready, we'll take that in stride also.
Thank you all so very much.
Mrs. here. I read over this before we posted and it's true. I haven't shown nor have I really felt aroused while looking at e-mails, etc., though I'm looking forward to it and excited. Arousal will come when we are there. Mr. is hot! facelick I'm just not really expressive until the moment. I do appreciate the fact that he is sensitive to where I am and doesn't want to push me into something I'm not ready for. That's why I love him so much! Thank you all again! We'll update you when it happens!!!!