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Originally Posted by eyesonus The other thing is from RND's reply- yes, I truly can not handle the idea of him being pleasured by another woman.  I've said it point blank on several occasions, which led to the establishment of the boundary that he is off limits. As he stated, that wasn't his fantasy anyway and he's ok with it. |
We couldn't help but notice another issue in the background that we would like to touch upon, if you don't mind. It did strike us that you guys might be heading into swinging with a bit of an "all about her" attitude, and we have a hard time imagining that as you guys really get into the Lifestyle you will no doubt encounter a situation where your hubby and another woman might really connect and want to play, yet your "boundary" will prohibit that from happening, and quite frankly, that could lead to a conflict. Boundaries should NEVER be crossed or renegotiated "in the heat of the moment" (that can REALLY cause problems!
), however, we can't help to think that your boundary might be setting you guys up for a different problem or conflict in the future as you continue your journey forward in swinging. I posted a response to Mandy1540 in another situational thread called "please help" (post 153733) regarding jealousy that we think applies to Mrs. Eyes as well. Instead of repeating that other post, we thought we would point you out to that one for your review.
Good luck, best wishes, and XOXOXO
, R&D