[northindycpl]

Dito! There is a lot of good advice here! I wanted to share with you aome advise on the verbal aspects you (Mrs.) were having issues with.

I, too, was very uncomfortable discussing sex with Mr. Indy in the beginning. Mostly because I was so naive about it, and he wasn't. I was afraid he would find my questions, thoughts or feelings idiotic and childish, just because I seemed to be so inexperienced.


Mr. Indy is also a very verbal man. Early in our relationship, (Maybe subconsiously) instead of trying to get me to be verbal spontaneously- he started asking me questions. He would say is this good, do you want me to go here or here, things like that. It made be start responding, and once I did, My comfort level with saying certain words, like cock, pussy, harder, softer, etc... went up.

He then started talking to me out of the bedroom too. It has been great. We have become a very verbal couple now. I am still a bit leary about verbalizing things in front of other people, but not in front of him.

I, was also shy about saying what it was I actually wanted out of a MFM, or any of our play when we first started. he approached it the same way. Questions! We would sit down and he would say, ok are you comfortable with DP, are you comfortable with kissing, etc. All I had to say was 'yes' or 'no' and that was it.