Eyesonus, you've just received some very good advice here and I can only reiterate.
Mrs. Eyes, you sound very much like me. I can talk your ear off usually but when Mr. asks me "What are your fantasies? What do you want? Details, details!...", well I clam right up. I feel ridiculous trying to spell out in detail precisely what I want to do or have done to me. (I think Mr. actually likes making me squirm like that; he thinks it's funny :rollseyes
I'm not sure why this is, but I think it has something to do with the idea that if I say it, he'll get the idea that it must happen exactly that way. I don't want a script! I don't need a plan. As VegasLee suggested, I prefer that everyone just gets naked and has some fun. Whatever happens happens.
It's really great that you're both exploring like this. They say to slow down and go at the pace that is comfortable for you. I agree with this to a certain extent, but there will come a time (or times) when you will reach the outer edge of your comfort zone. For example, moving from soft-swing to full-swap. There are some points you will reach where you just can't see beyond the mist, and you just don't know what's behind the door. There's no way around it but a leap of faith. It's at these times that you will experience either the greatest growth or the most pain. It's the risk that you each take, trusting that neither of you will hurt each other, walking through that door into the unknown, that makes the adventure so rewarding.