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Originally Posted by VegasLee Also it is not good to set in your mind or verbally what you think you want to happen or what is going to happen outside of setting up your "rules" of what you will not do.
I promise you the experience will NEVER be as big or as great as you will set yourself up for in your mind. Do NOT over think this. |
I couldn't agree more with Lee.
You're going to set yourself up for some major disappointments if you try to choreograph and construct your future play-date. You're going to 'think' the fun right out of it.
You only need to discuss your boundaries. As long as you're clear on what they are you can just go with the flow and enjoy yourselves.
I can understand how turned-on you get talking about potential scenarios when you're in the bedroom with your wife, but keep in mind- This turns
you on. It's
your thing. It's obviously not hers. Not everyone gets off verbally fantasizing. Some people are uncomfortable doing it. She says she's never been verbal when it comes to sex. Swinging and verbally fantasizing are two different birds. It's great that she's open to swinging, but don't expect all her sexual preferences to change too.